Welcome to The “Manospher”

[Jsmoove]

The thing with kids is you need to make sure that you're having them with someone who is your equal...someone that shares the same values and goals as you.

Bro I preach this to these young men today, if they take the gamble and are wanting to marry one of these modern women make sure they at least align with your values and beliefs while not guaranteed, it makes things a bit easier. Quiet frankly young men nowadays shouldn’t even be thinking about marriage. Marriage is a business and not one where us men benefit from in these current times, the fact the state is in your marriage is a problem to begin with. It took me making that mistake and getting out of it to understand the real nature of marriage in the United States of America.

[Jsmoove]

I had a very similar arc, Smoove. I was just fortunate that I met my wife, who came from a traditional home when I was 20 (she was 18). I didn't have to worry about body count, social media, baby daddy drama, none of it. We got together, raised a family and had similar ideology when it comes to marriage (til death do you part). I'm not saying that we didn't have disagreements, all couples do. But we didn't give ourselves an out when it came to those disagreements. Divorce was off the table. I remember after one argument she tried to call her father and complain about me. He told her that your husband is the man of your house and that what happened was none of his business and that unless I was abusing her he was not getting involved. Then he told his wife not to get involved as well and that we need to figure out how to make it work because marriage is for the long haul. I couldn't imagine dealing with some of these women today. My son is 34 and now he's a passport bro. I was against it at first, but modern women have lost their collective minds.

It’s funny Terp most men travel a very similar path in life most of us started out blue pill than a mfer. You sir were fortunate to find a a traditional woman who shares the same values as yourself and wasn’t tainted by the stench of feminism.I hear nightmare stories out there. Gen Z women age 18-up are all on sale to the highest bidder.

[Jsmoove]

One piece of advice I would give to young people these days, (those are not just content w/dating Rosie Palmer forever,) especially for men that are "looking", is one thing you mentioned in the past, of which I 100% agree with. That is, find a woman that comes from a two-parent, stable upbringing. If you're after more then just a quick notch in your belt, check out her past and how she was raised. It matters. Good luck, otherwise.

I endorse this post. A woman’s relationship with her father will tell a man whole lot of about her.

[Jsmoove]

In high school, all the girls want the athletes. After high school, some come to their senses, but the majority don't. Most women want the guys they can't have - the athletes, rich guys, etc. The normal guys now know this and figure why bother being somebody's back up plan when they can't get the man they want and they hit the wall. I read somewhere that 33% of men aged 18-30 have not had sex in the past year. You can't say that for women.

You know what’s funny Terp, I was talking to a buddy of mine he’s much young about 30yrs old come to find out buddy is a legit virgin and it’s not by choice no woman his age or younger is checking for him. Older women don’t want nothing to do with him because he’s a nerd and not a chad or Tyrone. but come to find out he’s not alone, there is a whole age group of men out there who are not getting laid. But some of these men if you want to call them that are a problem too. How do you not know how to change a tire bro? Jeans tight asf wearing the same size clothes as the women.

[Jsmoove]

IMO.......some of you are over looking the obvious. In the past the real reason to get married was.....for sex. Woman were more virtuous, waited longer to have sex.....or even wait till they were married. Now? woman are more free with their sexuality, men don't have to invest in the game of sexual pleasure. I hate to sound that barbaric and neanderthal like but it's the truth. One night stands are far more common then ever.

Relationships are a losing proposition for men, why invest? They can get the goods without investing. Men are wising up....The easiest way to lose half of everything you have earned is to get divorced. Eff that.....

"friends with benefits" were rarely a thing for our generation......now common place. Girls have "body counts". Woman are looking for the man who will be some sort of sugar daddy......some men have no problem fulfilling that roll........for a price.

I was extremely lucky when I was young. I was the athlete in school, it parlayed once I got in to my 20's. My downfall was choosing the wrong woman to marry. Beautiful woman......mean as a rattlesnake. Come home from work one day and everything was gone.....not even a cup to get a drink of water. Why would I ever want to get married again?

I agree had I masturbated before I met my ex wife I would saved myself 18 years of bullshit and saved 70k in child support

[darb72]

I met my wife in a dance club my freshman year. My buddy Chit was being stalked by a girl named Torpedo-Titties. I was on the dance floor distracting her so the guys could escape. She sees he's gone and runs off leaving me on the floor like an idiot. Cute little* thing waggles her finger in a beckoning fashion. We've been together 29 years in October, married for 24 in July. She helped lead me to Christ which is about the best thing you can say of a young lady.

Two amusing anecdotes about our early relationship. First is that she's the reason I am considered an albino brother.

Second is my favorite story about getting put in my place. I'm being Mr. Smooth and casually mention that we're expected to win our second national championship in a row. I still remember her response to the letter. "Oh, that's great. My cousin played in the Super Bowl". Ego just deflated. But, that's what I need in a relationship. She keeps me grounded.

And that's the problem with a lot of relationships today. We're a society built on instant gratification. Why wait for a loving, long-term relationship built on mutual respect and love when you can get your rocks off with a swipe of your finger. There are no perfect relationships, but that's what everybody wants. I find my wife's need to have the cleaning done right when she wants it done to be highly annoying. She hates my way of cleaning which can take all day, but allows for ample slacking. I put (her) above (us) while she puts (us) above (me). Her way is smarter.