But arranging a coming out party to me is just the wrong way to do it. I think you'd likely turn off just as many people (not that you're gay but with how you did it) as you would have other people applauding it.
The media calls attebtion and makes a big deal out of it. Just like Ayanbadejo got asked questions in certainn ways to get a story yesterday; a la "Nfl player claims he hasn't beaten his wife for over 2 years" It is a story and will be one until several players comeout. Then the media will create some other story line to pursue.. Smart to have several guys come out at once. The union seems to be doing well here for a change.
I hope they come out. The repercussions of this extend far beyond just the gay community. How many kids are beaten up on the playground and called, "faggot" while it's happening? I remember in middle school we used to have a game called "Smear the Queer" where basically we singled out one kid who was "different" and all tried to tackle/chase him around.
If FOOTBALL PLAYERS, the manliest, toughest men possible, come out and say it's ok to be gay, that it's ok to be different - it's just in general a great positive step towards creating a general culture of acceptance, rather than one of exclusivity and terrorized conformity.
Isn't it a safe bet at this point that Ayanbadejo is gay? Not that there is anything wrong with that...
Tim Hardaway: "I hate gay people."
Chris Culliver wouldn't accept openly gay teammate.
Garrison Heast: "I don't want any faggots on my team."
I think it's safe to say it's necessary to draw attention to the issue until the public mindset is changed.
Likewise, the world didn't end when Jews started going to Harvard, or when Catholics and Protestants were allowed to intermarry. But it took people being out there in front of it, publicly and openly, for attitudes to begin changing. People didn't all just shrug their shoulders at once and say 'OK."
It shouldn't matter, but it does, because people who hate homosexuals make it matter. They make it matter by physically assaulting, threatening and generally treating them horribly. Homosexuals have been forced into hiding for centuries, and in many societies today. If it weren't for all of THAT, then no they wouldn't need to publicly "come out."
The fact that people feel like this is being "shoved in their faces" shows that those people prefer to keep it like it was -- they want their gays in the closet. The gays, however, are tired of staying there, and I don't blame them. If I had to hide my wife everywhere I went and not tell anyone I was married or go to a restaurant with her without worrying whether some skinhead asshole was going to break a bottle over my head, I'd get pretty fucking tired of it too. And at some point, I think people of like persuasion would be sorely tempted to get together and say you know what, screw this, we're not living like this anymore.
Pretty much what happens when socieities systematically marginalize groups of people, or worse. Is it any wonder that Israel, for example, defends itself so aggressively? When you put up with as much shit as they have, you kind of stop caring what other people think, and do what you need to do, to be who you are and not have to take other people's shit about it.